If you’re male and 18 and waiting anxiously for your acceptance at a college or university the authors of The Campus Rape Frenzy would undoubtedly have two words of advice: Don’t go. If you do go and then have sex, your partner can accuse you of rape if you kiss her or reach for her hand without her permission. She can say she was afraid of you when she did give permission and was coerced. She can claim that after a single drink she was under the influence of alcohol and therefore unable to give consent and can make these claims months after the fact without you being aware that she has made them. Think that’s scary? What happens next is even worse.
freebeacon.com By Bruce Fleming
This is a terribly tragic story of discrimination and what bystander intervention really looks like. A TIX sexual assault complaint was filed by a nosy 3rd party female…Doe attempted to put an end to the matter at once: Grant Neal (the accused) recorded her making the definitive statement, “I’m fine and I wasn’t raped” to university officials. But no one cared. In the eyes of the university, it was not Doe’s place to determine whether she was a victim of sexual assault—that was the investigators job. The man in charge of investigating whether Grant Neal had raped Doe first told Neal to open emails from Doe his girlfriend, and then later told him he could be disciplined for opening them. “That’s when I immediately knew,” said Neal. “That’s when I really knew that the situation was above my control.”.. After denying Neal any meaningful way to demonstrate his innocence, CSU-Pueblo effectively ended his career, cancelling out his scholarships and opportunities to play football and pursue a wrestling career. Read Mr. Neal’s interview below.
reason By Robby Soave
This story is one for the history books…It was the summer of 2014 when two Michigan State University students, “Nathan” and “Melanie” agreed to meet and have sex. About a year later, Melanie began taking hormones in order to transition to a man. Her transition was one of the reasons she filed a Title IX complaint against Nathan, 16 months after the incident. “Transitioning was one of the driving elements for why I reported, because I felt uncomfortable using the men’s restrooms in my residential college, for fear that I would encounter him.” After months of costly appeals, what is Nathan’s sanction? A no-contact order along with a finding that Nathan violated MSU’s policy on sexual conduct. His transcript will forever state that he was guilty of an unspecified sex offense.
reason.com By Robby Soave
Parents of innocent accused sons are often crying inside for years as they try to help their young sons heal after they are treated cruelly and unjustly by Title IX. Title IX hearings are not about seeking truth when a sex accusation is made. Title IX is about cruelty towards the minority gender on campuses. Males.
New lawsuits appear weekly from accused males who have been bullied, abused and denied due process by Title IX. And thanks to Obama’s 2011 DCL, Title IX is very successful in expelling/suspending/denying an education to hundreds of males. Once accused, males are isolated from their friends, and told they cannot speak to anyone at the school about the accusation. As a result, these young 17-24 year old males are emotional wrecks for years, lending to suicidal thoughts, hospitalization or both.
I hear from these males and their parents, and below is a sampling of their suffering. Because this information is so personal, I’ve simplified the stories by removing details to protect identities.
My son suffers from panic attacks regularly.
My son has PTSD.
My son confessed to me that suicide crossed his mind more than once.
My son was suicidal but fortunately not successful thanks to friends.
My friend’s son was hospitalized for suicidal thoughts and he is still in therapy.
My son is too distressed to talk to me.
My son’s spirit was damaged. I worried he might go down a black hole of depression. He barely ate or slept for months.
My son was deeply depressed for a long time and he still can’t discuss his experience with us.
My son committed suicide. Later on his accuser wanted to meet with me. She told me she was sorry for accusing my son. She was trying make another guy jealous.
The whole thing is a profoundly isolating experience.
I felt I was in a black hole.
Two years ago a my son committed suicide. His accuser later recanted.
My son was put on suicide watch at Occidental College. His friends were scared that he might hurt himself when he was removed from his dorm room and put in isolation. His friends called the suicide watch line, and for 24 hours my son had guards outside his room.
It’s been three years since my son was falsely accused, but he recently told me how dark his days had been, and how dark they still are at times. He also told me he considered killing himself during those dark days three years ago, and my husband and I never knew.
During my son’s Title IX hearing we told the college we were very afraid that our son would take his own life.
A lawyer told me that he takes phone calls 24/7 from college males who are suicidal as a result of being falsely accused.
The emotional toll of a false accusation on families and their son is immense. The psychological trauma is unbearable for these young college males, and thankfully many do not commit suicide, but the wounds are deep and permanent. The scars that these innocent men carry are intensely private and we must help them heal by offering a hand up, by preserving the presumption of innocence, and by demanding due process. If we do not, America is to blame.
I receive emails from many who are falsely accused. I am often saddened at the manipulative nature of the accusers, and shocked by the powerful Title IX gender specialists who think every female accusation is true, and treat every accused college male as a sexual deviant. The gender specialists are Title IX snake charmers hypnotizing young college girls to believe they’ve been assaulted when they haven’t. Young accused men are denied their college degree, they are isolated from their college community and sports teams, they are denied access to college dining halls, denied access to professors, denied access to the library, and viciously shamed into a rubble of manhood. Accusers rarely call the police or seek a rape kit. Accusers always call the Title IX snake charmers. Below are some of the accusations that I know.
A male is studying in the library for an exam and is staring off into the distance. A girl in the library files a Title IX complaint because he stared too long in her direction. He is suspended for one year, and can not be on campus. Title IX says staring is sexual assault.
A High School male senior is accepted to college and ready to enroll in classes during the summer. The male is informed that his HS ex-girlfriend (who is not going to college) called his college to say her ‘rapist’ is coming to their college. The male can not register, or move into his dorm, while Title IX investigates this girl’s accusation of a kiss that happened not at college, but at HS 200 miles away. The young male’s life was in turmoil and nearly ruined before he even began college. A lawyer had to be retained for true justice. Title IX says sexual assault includes believing an accusation from a jealous HS girl made against a rising freshman.
In 2011 a male broke up with his girlfriend through texting. She filed a Title IX complaint. The girl’s father is a Professor at the college. The male was expelled and denied an education. Years later the girl admitted she lied and signed a notarized document stating that the male never assaulted her. The male is still being denied his college education. Title IX says sexual assault includes revenge from an ex-girlfriend.
In 2013 a sophomore male had consensual sex with a freshman female. “The freshmen class was subject to a new political order, and it really had an effect on the impressionable women…these young girls were so unsure of themselves and how to maintain adult encounters with mutual emotional respect that the only way they could assert their identity was through rash and damaging behavior.” The female filed a Title IX complaint. The male was expelled, denied his education, and still can not transfer to another college. Title IX says sexual assault includes consensual sex.
In 2014 during a family neighborhood gathering a girl pursued a guy who already had a girlfriend. For a year this girl ignored the guy’s wishes who kept saying he had a girlfriend. In 2015 the guy finally got through to the girl. Five months later the girl filed a Title IX complaint for an ‘assault’ that happened 150 miles away in 2014 during the family gathering. The male was suspended a year before graduation. The girl then brought her accusation to the male’s work place. He was fired. This male lost his scholarships, education, degree, and employment. Title IX says sexual assault includes females who are denied the attention of males.
In 2015 a girl asked a guy to take class notes for her, After a month the guy realized he was being used and told the girl he was not going to be taking notes for her anymore. She told him if he stopped taking her class notes, she would accuse him of sexual assault. The guy continued taking her class notes for fear of being accused by her. Title IX says sexual assault includes females threatening males to do what they say or else.
To be continued…
In my weekly travels from Boston to New York I have seen increased traffic full of cars and SUVS clearly headed to a college campus. These students are excited and ready to begin an exciting journey without parents hovering and watching every aspect of their lives. Then reality sets in and some of these sons and daughters will have their futures disrupted, not because of failing a class but failing to understand what campus rules are around consent and proof of consent. I feel bad that there is nothing I can do to prevent the future heart aches of a mother I have not met, the frustration and fear of a father that wants above all to defend their child, and the disbelief of a student that finds themselves treated like a 3rd world citizen. I have no voice, there is no warning I can sound. Other than to ask each parent to be armed with the knowledge that your child has 50.01% of being falsely accused, found guilty, and kicked off campus before his rights are read…because there is no campus justice for your child once accused.
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Hello, I am a mother of a son who was a transfer student to a well known university in the South. He was in school for 3 weeks when he met a girl in his class. After a couple of dates they had sex at his house where she spent the night. The next morning she invited him and his friend for breakfast at her house. They had drinks and she smoked pot.
After they left she decided she didn’t like the way his friend treated her and proceeded to threaten him with an accusation of rape if he did not implicate his friend in wrong doing. She then proceeded to accuse my son of drugging and raping her.
She spread this rumor throughout the university and my son was investigated by the local police and the university.
Luckily for us he had over 25 saved pages of text messages where she admitted to wanting to have sex and also admitted that this was her intention for the date. The police department did not pursue the case due to the evidence and the toxicology report showed no drugs in her system except for the marijuana that she had provided for herself. The university EOO investigated the case and found him not in violation of the university code of conduct.
We as a family spent many months in complete terror that this false accusation would ruin my sweet son’s life. It cost us over 15,000.00 in attorneys fees as we could not take the chance that our son would not be represented as we were not allowed to be present in the investigation.
Although he was found not guilty of these charges his reputation was ruined and to this day he can’t go out without someone threatening him and calling him a rapist. He did not have any real friends yet as he had only been there for a few weeks.
Since that time he is suffering from PTSD , anxiety and depression. He is self medicating with alcohol and he stays pretty isolated. Even though he didn’t do anything wrong and is the real victim, he is treated like the guilty one.
The system is set up to rally around her, the proposed victim. She had all the support and kindness from both the students and the faculty, especially in the first 4 months as the investigation was on going. It is criminal the way my son has been and still is being treated, as this person continues to perpetuate the lie under the guise of free speech.
We feel that she should not be able to continue these accusations when they have been investigated properly and have been determined to be false.
We were told that there is a non retaliation clause that prohibits the university from any action against her. I feel desperate to get my son out of there but he refuses to be run out as he did not do anything wrong.
He is a couple of semesters away from graduation but I am so very concerned for his well being as a part of his spirit has died and he has built a very dense wall around himself. It has taken a huge toll on him, his health, his well being and on the health and well being of his family.
I thought we were living in a country where this could not happen. That the false accusation would be met with swift action against the perpetrator. The accusation of rape is so heinous and such a soul stealing act that a false accusation should be illegal.
– Very worried mom
“Here is the down and dirty bottom line regarding 90 percent-plus of reported adult sexual assaults: It’s the alcohol. Period”… The current orthodoxy is to presume the guilt of the accused —usually the man— There are numerous stories of young men who innocently, albeit foolishly, believed they were engaged in a consensual sex act, only to find a day, a week or a month later, that they have been accused of rape, often by a young woman who is confused or racked by guilt and regret over her own behavior.
star-telegram.com By Cynthia M. Allen
Even now, the process of ‘moving on’ after our son endured a false accusation of sexual misconduct in college traps our family standing in raw emotional tracks.
One night as the clock read 3:30 a.m., my mobile phone lit up and I sat up in bed. “Honey, what’s wrong?” my husband asked. “Nothing, babe, it’s okay, go back to sleep,” I replied, knowing he had a stressful day at work ahead of him.
On the phone I could hear quiet sobbing. I knew in an instant who it was. “It’s okay, I’m here,” I told the voice on the other end.
“I’m sorry mom, I just can’t do this anymore…”
And my heart broke yet again for my son, who is struggling to rebuild a promising life derailed by a false accusation.
I’m learning with our son that life doesn’t just go on after an allegation of rape on campus. Even after clearing his name, even years later, the pain returns, staggeringly fresh.
Our son isn’t weak, he is strong; our son isn’t unstable, he is a good person with a kind heart. This experience has knocked us all to our knees, and the long fight has left us reeling and raw.
I’m learning that the healing process isn’t a straight path for survivors of trauma. I’m learning that it offends some to even equate our experience with trauma. I’m learning that the message is clear to the American people, that on campus the innocent do not matter, that their lives aren’t as important, that we should be happy and celebrate clearing his name. I’m learning it doesn’t work that way. The damage to him, our family, his reputation, has been done. Moving on is not as easy as it seems.
Later that morning, I reached out to some of my new friends, other parents who have lived through campus adjudication with their innocent student. Finding this group has been a lifeline for our family. It’s hard being a parent of someone accused on campus, you feel that instant mark of abomination. The looks of pity and utter contempt you receive when on campus. Looks of horror including from campus employees afraid to meet your gaze is something, which with I’m familiar. They know who you are: you’re the rapist’s mom, and for an instant you know exactly how your innocent child feels.
I find myself brought back to those moments, years ago but so fresh in my mind. So real, even now, that I remember feeling the warmth of the sun, the smell of fresh cut grass on the campus lawn as I leaned over to pick up my son who was in a crumble, vomiting after a meeting with the Dean of Students. I remember students walking by and they seemed to be moving in slow motion. I remember their faces, stacks of books, laughing and smiling on their way to class. I remember seeing the Dean look out the glass door window, turning and walking the other way. It was in that moment that I knew we couldn’t trust the school. It was in that moment that I knew my son would never be the same.
I think what is hardest for me now is the silencing.
The bizarre feeling in the pit of my stomach I get watching Senators, Vice Presidents, Celebrities, and Activists all shouting for a cause, and I want to speak… I want to say “yes, yes I understand, we want survivors to feel supported, we want our girls to be safe… but what you’re preaching isn’t the truth of the story, it isn’t the reality for many innocent students on campus, there is another side.” I want to beg Senators McCaskill and Gillibrand to see the destruction of an innocent life, to feel his pain, to see his trauma, to know what it’s like to pick up your child who is in a crumble on the campus lawn, to ask them why his life doesn’t matter… but the silencing continues, and the war wages on.
But one day, hopefully the tide will turn toward a reasonable fusion of compassion and common sense. And until that day arrives and changes are permanently made in law and policy toward due process and fairness, my family and I will live on to fight another day. And one day when my son’s invisible wounds are healed, he will have been stronger for the journey.
-Mother of a falsely accused son
Since I was completely innocent, what did I have to fear? I assumed the police would conduct an unbiased investigation of the matter. That was before I heard about “victim-centered” investigations. By Victor Zheng dailycaller.com